Wave Effect
A 4-week intensive psychosomatic journey into healing emotional trauma - next course beginning 18th January 2026.
For women who are resistant to healing but are exhausted of repeating the same unwanted patterns.
(The ones who'd rather do literally anything else than attend to themselves)
This is course is deep, transformative work that heals the wound at it’s root.
Transform your connection with yourself to create real change in your relationships and overcome the unwanted patterns in your life.
You're smart. Successful.
The one who looks like everything is grand.
Except….
You're exhausted from constantly doing, achieving, and keeping it all together. Your relationships follow the same painful patterns. And despite all the self-help books, therapy sessions, and conscious efforts to "fix" yourself, you still have an aversion to your self.
You still do not love yourself.
You’re still not convinced that slowing down, doing less- which seems impossible, will actually solve everything the literature says it will.
The thoughts of doing less feels impossible. But you know this constant doing and busyness is why you can’t name your needs, never mind ask for them to be met and you feel so lost.
Is this hitting home?
If You’re:
The high achiever who's exhausted from constantly doing (but don’t want to stop but know you need learn to)
Someone who loses themselves in relationships, is avoidant and anxious at the same time
Burnout of analyzing everything and still going round in the exact same circles
Someone who has trauma but has exiled that part, buried it deep
Addicted to escaping and numbing
…then it's time to make a change.
Here's what you probably already know:
Those patterns you keep repeating? The relationships that feel eerily similar? The way you abandon yourself the moment conflict shows up?
… that's your inner child running the show.
(Important! Just because you had a privileged upbringing doesn’t mean you don’t have childhood trauma. Everyone has childhood trauma)
The real problem?
You're trying to think your way through healing.
Thinking your feelings.
Reading all the books.
Analyzing every feeling.
Working harder at healing like it's another thing to prove your worth.
But here's the thing:
Your body keeps the score, and your body doesn’t like the constant tracking, it intefers with the nature of it.
You dont anaylse and track the ocean, you breathe and feel it, absorb its awe.
Those unexplained outbursts?
The anxiety that shows up in relationships?
The deep resistance to anything that feels like "healing"?
That's the pathway to your freedom.
The chains that shackle you, your awareness frees you.
Every conscious breath reveals something.
Your body holds so much wisdom about your deepest desires and oldest wounds.
It’s likely screaming at you because the whispers went unheard.
It’s time to listen.
Imagine instead:
Finally understanding your triggers and learn how to attend to that energy
Being able to staying present during conflict instead of running for the hills
Breaking free from abandonment relationship patterns ( the one with yourself)
Learning to trust yourself instead of second-guessing every decision
Feeling deeply self-assured and confident in your abilities
Actually knowing how to attend to your core wounds instead of just stepping over them time and time again
Not through more thinking.
Not through pushing harder.
But through actually learning to stay and feel what your body needs to complete for your freedom.
(Even if the thought of being with yourself makes you want to run a marathon instead.)
Listen to my past members thoughts:
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Ciara
“The Connect to Self course is a massive invest in yourself! If you are feeling stuck, navigating negative patterns or dealing with distorted self views, this course will really support you in working with this. The daily practices are so nourishing and insightful, they have made a really positive impact on my self worth.
During the course I felt to cared for and held even with it being online. I learnt so much about myself and I have gained so much wisdom that I will carry with me forever. The group element really adds an extra layer to the healing through the being seen and meeting everyone where they are at and loving them.
If you struggle with being seen like me, even the showing up and talking to the group will break down those barriers. I felt very seen and understood by Carla and everybody, I am so grateful for this opportunity. Carla's way of holding space is super relaxed, honest, fun and her knowledge will blow you away. I highly recommend to everybody.”
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Paula
“Before I joined Connect to Self, I was feeling guilty about doing anything for myself. Now I understand that the more I invest time and love in myself, the happier I am. It’s hard setting boundaries with other relationships, as setting aside time for me is something they are not used to. But I now know it is something I must do.
A big realisation was just how much I have carried my childhood trauma throughout my life - and how that led me to living a pattern of repeated trauma. I was genuinely very skeptical about doing this type of work. But I can honestly say that if you take the time and invest in yourself, you will you reap the rewards.
The first step for change in my life has been to take the plunge with Carla’s Connect to Self course, it was the start of my well deserved journey. If you are pursuing a self care journey then take the plunge!”
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Deirdre*
“Before joining Carla’s course, I was completely stuck, continuously falling into the same cycles of addiction and abuse. Well Carla help me break out of the abuse and deal with it in a way I didn't know I could. For the first time in since childhood, I learned to sit with myself, to not abandon myself and to bring myself to a place of calm and clarity naturally from within.
My capacity to sit with myself and regulate myself has improved so much. I’m excited to see where the tools I’ve acquired can take me as I feel I’ve only just scratched the surface and want to working with Carla to heal so much more.
This course has had a profound impact on me, even if your curious take the leap you will not regret it.”
*Name changed for confidentiality
The Work
A month-long devotion to healing the origin of your adult struggles through self study, breath, movement and connection
For women who want to stop repeating patterns and live a life rich in connection and authenticity.
This course is the creation of a decade of study and 8 years of working with women in these deep immersions. Carla has helped 100s of women, really change their lives by truly learning to love themselves, all their parts. From changing careers, cities, finding their passions to meeting someone, each woman life is changed after this course, as the act of attending to your body and breath is so powerful.
This course is deep, transformative work that gets to the root of what's really going on.
By end of 4 weeks you will: Identify your patterns of how you resist yourself, your healing, your own love. Learn to truly love yourself and know your worth.
How? Here’s what’s involved…
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22 Live Practice Sessions
Understanding healing is one part to help commitment. The real healing happens in the lived experience. Experience somatic movement, breathwork, mantra, affirmations, visualisations and observe to uncover the wisdom your body holds.
Live on Zoom, 30 minutes Mon-Fri - a mixture of mornings and evenings. Recordings available if times clash with your schedule. -
5 Education Sessions
We’ll have weekly calls with the group to help you understand the psychology and somatic psychology of your body through the mediums of: body-mind centering, internal family systems, compassionate inquiry, yoga philosophy and tantra philosophy. Understand the resistance you feel, what it serves and why - so that you can implement the change you desire. These are education sessions to understand the philosophy and science of why this all works which supports your motivation and commitment to the sessions.
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Supportive Community
You won’t be in this alone. The power of healing lies in being community, nothing survives in isolation.
Connect with other likeminded women going through similar struggles as you. Share in our closed Ocean Healing group, ask questions and access any short video tutorials I’ll create based on different themes that arise amongst the group. This is the most powerful element of this course.
Upgrade to Connect to Self and you’ll receive:
Four 1:1 Deep Dive Calls with me
The eye can see everything but itself.
These sessions help you truly see yourself, your resistance and your power.
I will support you noticing when you are story telling rather than feeling, when you skipping past parts of healing. I support you in helping you stay and truly feel what is here. To breathe is to feel is to heal.
What Makes This Different
The thing that makes me really good at my job is that I’m terrible at healing.
I was the one rolling my eyes at breathwork.
The one who thought sitting still was actual torture.
The one who'd rather die than relax.
(Sound familiar?)
But here's what I learned:
The resistance? It's part of the process.
The skepticism? Actually useful.
The inability to slow down? That's exactly where we start.
Remember it didn’t begin with you.
It’s not your fault but change is so necessary for health in this sick world.
I'm not here to tell you to "just trust the process."
I'm here to show you how to work with your resistance instead of fighting it.
What You'll Walk Away With
1. A New Relationship with Yourself
To stop the acts of violence to your self and really, truly love yourself..
Heal your inner child: which will change your current external challenges and connect you to the whole of you.
Which means deeper connection, more power and more love.
2. Practical Tools That Actually Work
Learn how to:
Stay present during conflict instead of running or freezing, to respond rather than react
Recognize your patterns before you're knee-deep in them
Actually feel your feelings without reacting or projecting
Trust your body's wisdom and learn to listen
3. Deep, Lasting Change
This isn't about quick fixes or temporary solutions. This is about transforming your relationship with yourself from the ground up. So you can:
Break free from unhealthy relationship patterns
Stop abandoning yourself when things get tough
Actually trust yourself and your decisions
Create the life you want without constantly second-guessing yourself
What Other Women Are Saying
“Do this course if you want change in your life. If you are stuck or dealing with distorted self views, this course will really support you” - Ciara
“I’d recommend working with Carla to others because the world needs more unapologetically relaxed, outspoken & unafraid women” - Giordan
“I 100% feel less anxious, more connected to myself and others around me. I feel more headspace for work and more gratitude too. Highly recommend 100%” - Ros
The Process
Week 1: Understand Your Resistance to Self
Explore why you resist healing (and why that's useful information)
Identifying childhood experiences to understand patterns throughout your life
Uncover when you first met the emotions you're struggling with today
Start shifting focus from others back to yourself
Week 2: Identify Untrue Core Beliefs and identify emotions present
Expose the untrue stories you're telling yourself - in your unconscious
How the same core belief shows up in relationships, work and how you care for yourself
Start the process of connecting and accepting truth and transforming the energy of these untrue core beliefs.
Week 3: Learn to identify your needs + communicate them
Learn to stay, to identify the emotion present
Explore your relationship with your parents and how it shapes your emotional processing + intelligence
Your relationship with vulnerability and what you want
Define what you actually want
Week 4: Certain Transformation
Embed the practices that you resonated with, safety guards to keep you connected to truth, your body, your emotions.
Staying committed to yourself regardless of external
Future Self practises
Affirming the life you are moving towards
Why Me?
Because I get it. I was resistant to all of this for YEARS.
I had built a successful corporate career in alcohol industry. I was addicted to being busy - always multitasking, every second of the day filled.
I was prescribed yoga and meditation by my therapist after being diagnosed with CPTSD at 27. I was so disconnected from my body I couldn't tell my arm from my leg.
I was addicted to exercise and was convinced my therapist was trying to make me fat when she suggested I give up training.
I would rather have died, that been still and silent.
My first response to yoga? Looking like a professional rugby player trying to touch their toes.
My reaction to meditation? Holding my breath so much that I ended up passing out.
Something kept me showing up.
Every so often I would feel tingles, pleasure, waves of love- our true nature. At our core we our BEings of love, but carrying too much traumatic energy disconnect us from our innate care system.
I help women like you who are:
have a bratty resistance to healing (my specialty)
desperate for change but attached to the way you are currently
too exhausted to feel, can’t identify emotions
addicted to work / food / exercise / other
have a mix of anxious and avoidant patterns in relationships
I’m grounded, good craic and make this work which can feel airy fairy, as tangible as possible.
My approach is through love, truth compassionate curiosity.
I have a gift for the work that I do, in truly seeing you, how powerful you are.
I will give it to you straight while holding and supporting you.
I also know that I don’t have the answers, you do.
I just help you find them.
The Wave Effect
The Breakdown
Course Dates: 19th Jan - 17th Feb 2026
✔ 4 weeks of intensive psychosomatic healing
✔ 22 live group practice sessions (mix of morning and evening)
✔ 5 educational sessions covering childhood trauma, core beliefs, resistance to self and healing practices that actually work
✔ Access to a private community group for sharing and support
Upgrade to Connect to Self
Everything in The Wave Effect PLUS:
✔ 4 x 1:1 Deep Dive Calls
✔ Truly see yourself, your resistance and your power!
✔ Notice when you are story telling rather than feeling, when you skipping past parts of healing.
Ready to Transform Your Relationship with Yourself?
It’s time to stop overthinking and start listening
The fact that you're here, reading this, means part of you knows it's time for change. Your resistance to this work isn't a sign that you're doing something wrong - it's an invitation to listen more deeply.
The resistance you feel? That's normal.
The skepticism? I get it.
But imagine looking back after 4 weeks, knowing you finally took the step that changed everything.
Are you ready to answer that invitation?
Some things that are probably on your mind ↓
It sounds like an awful lot of work, what if I’m too busy?
If you’re busy now, keeping yourself busy isn’t going to change anything. One of the most profound things you can do for yourself is carve out some space to slow down. Why can you commit to work but not to learning about yourself? If you can't commit to yourself, how will you be able to commit to another?
I don’t like the idea of being vulnerable in front of a group. Do I have to share?
There is incredible power in the experience of being witnessed by others. We create a closed, safe space and sharing is highly encouraged but not mandatory. The more you can allow yourself to open up, the more benefits you’ll experience. But we never want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
I’m afraid I’ll join and then never show up. What’s the commitment?
Embedding supportive practices as part of your daily life gets so much easier once you have received and experienced their many benefits. Getting started is the hardest part. There is a high level of accountability involved. I am totally immersed with you all for the month and will be by your side for encouragement, support and to navigate challenges with you.
The weekly commitment is five 30 min practices, one education session and one 1:1 call along with any time you spend engaging with the community and me in our closed Facebook group. The course lasts 4 weeks.
How much 1:1 support is included?
You will receive three 1:1 60 minute calls with me. You’ll be provided a booking link so you can choose a time that best suits you. The 1:1 support can be spaced out as you see fit. I recommend one just before/at the start of the month, one during and the final one towards the end/just after finishing.
What if I can’t attend early morning sessions?
I appreciate that not everyone is an early bird. I do really believe in the power of a morning practice which sets you up for the day. I’d encourage everyone to do their best to attend live if possible but I totally understand that other commitments might clash. Recordings of each session are made available within 24 hours of the call (usually much less) so that you can partake.